Relationship Therapy: The Power of Connection
Repairing Relationships
The only difference between couples that make it, and couples that don't, is their ability to notice and repair moments of disconnection (research courtesy of the Gottman institute).
That's right: repair. It's not about how often you fight, or whether you fight about money or sex or housework, or communication styles, or love languages, or compatability. It's all about connection and repair.
I use Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) to help couples build capacity for connection and repair. EFT helps couples establish a secure bond, which unlocks people's natural capacity to come up with all kinds of creative new solutions to old problems. EFT gives us a roadmap - HOW do we change? - that transforms what Gottman calls "disaster" couples into "master" couples.
The Benefits of EFT: Healing That Lasts
While The Gottman Institute produces incredible research on relationships - WHAT are healthy couples doing that works? - EFT is the type of couples counseling that shows us HOW to build a happy, secure relationship.
EFT has four decades' worth of dozens of clinical trials and empirically validated outcome studies proving that it works. Not only does it work - couples who complete a full course of treatment improve even years and decades after wrapping up therapy! Only one other model, IBCT, is empirically validated (three clinical trials). No other couples therapy approach is backed by empirically validated research.
Identify Negative Patterns
Learn to accurately map out the 'negative cycles' that leave you feeling stuck, shifting the focus from individual blame to relational connection.
Foster Secure Bonds
EFT views our need for safe connection as a primary human drive. When we feel disconnected, our brains enter a survival state. EFT helps our relationship become a source of comfort and empowerment in the face of life stress.
Evidence-Based Healing
Rooted in the science of human attachment, EFT is backed by 40 years' worth of clinical trials and empirically validated outcome research. EFT is proven to help individuals and couples build stronger emotional health.
Deepening Your Bond
EFT for Couples
Instead of focusing on surface-level arguments, we look at the 'negative cycle' that pulls you apart. Emotionally Focused Therapy helps you move from conflict to a loving, secure connection where both partners feel safe enough to be vulnerable. We focus on rebuilding trust and creating a deep and lasting sexual and emotional bond.
EFT for Individuals
In individual therapy, EFT helps you navigate your internal emotional landscape by identifying the 'negative cycles' you play out within yourself. By processing deep-seated emotions and trauma in a safe, guided space, you can develop a more compassionate relationship with yourself, move toward greater resilience, and feel more securely attached to your own needs and values.
Generational healing
EFT for Families
The primary goal of family therapy is to re-establish connection, so kids can send clear signals and caregivers can respond in a way that is effective and promotes a secure bond. This empowers kids and parents alike to repair trust and show up for the family with both flexibility and closeness, promoting both individual growth and meaningful relationships across generations.